I don’t want to be an expert on singleness.
One day, I’d like be married with children. Right now, I’m very much single.
God has had to do a work in me. I’ve had to confront what I believe about myself, being an unmarried woman in my mid-thirties, but most of all how I see Him.
What we believe about God will determine our obedience, our submission, and how well we’ll wait for our spouse.
Rooted In Love
Many Christians want to bear good fruit for the Kingdom. The visible fruit of the tree is the overflow of water it has received in times of rain. Roots are the foundation of the tree that we cannot see. The Bible speaks a lot about roots (Colossians 2:6-7; Hosea 14:4-6; Luke 17:6 to name a few) and they are needed to provide nutrition as well as an anchor during storms.
Standing firm in the faith that we have through Christ, we are rooted in the love that He has for us.
“…that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and the length and the depth and height – to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.” (Ephesians 3:17-19)
As time passes with no husband or children, it can be difficult to stay rooted to God and trust His plan for you life. Whatever season you find yourself in one thing remains: Jesus’s love for you. I love the Message version, “…And I ask with both feet planted firmly on love, you’ll be able to take in with all the followers of Jesus the extravagant dimensions of Christ’s love. Reach out and experience the breadth! Test its length! Plumb the depth! Rise to the heights!”
What’s In Store?
Inwardly, you wonder why God has denied you the desire of your heart and begin to despair if it will ever happen. The truth, according to Paul, is that Paul you have not reached the depth of God’s love. The earthly love of a husband you long for this side of heaven is just a taste of the love you’ll share in the marriage feast of the Lamb.
Fear comes in when you don’t know the future. What exactly does God have in store for me?, you may ask. There’s no need to fear if you’re rooted in Him (your foundation is firm in who He is rather than what He can do for you).
Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD,And whose hope is in the LORD.For he shall be like a tree planted by the waters,Which spreads out its roots by the river,And will not fear when the heat comes;But its leaf will be green,And will not be anxious in the year of drought,Nor will cease from yielding fruit. (Jeremiah 17: 7-8)
What fruit can you bear during the “heat” of waiting and uncertainty? Galatians 5:22 lists the fruit of the Spirit which includes love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Should you get into a relationship, having applied these to your own life would only be an additional blessing.
In your season of waiting rest assured and be confident that you are LOVED.
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