Waiting For A Prince
Sisters, I feel your frustration!
We go to church to fellowship with God and other believers, but let’s be honest, we want to meet our spouse there. We spend the majority of our lives in church (other than going to work, school, or home) and to grow roots with a man there who shares your belief and passion in Christ would be like the icing on the cake. But more often then not, instead of encountering another sheep in God’s pasture, we’ve encountered wolves.
Do You Have A Checklist?
So what do I mean by a “good” Christian man? (in case any of my Christian brothers are reading this…stick with me to the end!)
I’m not talking about a “husband list” of what I’d prefer my man to look like physically (I mean if he has an English accent and blue eyes, I won’t complain) but what God tells us we need to look for spiritually:
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Is he patient? kind?
Does he easily become envious or jealous?
Is he arrogant, wanting the applause of others?
Is he rude or self-seeking? Wanting a title instead of wanting to serve?
Does he speak badly of others, hoping they’ll get their due or does he uphold the truth?
Is he believing the best of others? Does he give them second (or third, or fourth) chances?
Does he forgive and forget?
1 Timothy 5:1-2
Does he treat you respectfully as a sister in Christ? Does he understand your worth as God’s daughter because He knows his value as God’s son? Is he respectful and courteous to his elders?
1 Samuel 26:9-11
Is he open to correction? Is he able to humble himself when he’s wrong? What if he was falsely accused of being wrong yet proved he was right? Would he “lord” it over you or be quick to forgive being attacked? Does he have a healthy respect for authority?
Does he speak with awe about the life-changing, life-quaking encounters He’s had with God that has made him the man he is today?
Some Other Things To Consider
- Does he have his own prayer life?
- Can you see the good fruit of the Holy Spirit in his life through the ministry he’s involved in?
- Does he speak and act honorably not only inside the church but outside as well?
So why did I ask my brothers in Christ to stick with me till the end? Because all of these traits are easily and equally applied to women. For some men out there, it may feel like the idea of a “good, single Christian woman” is a unicorn; someone who doesn’t lie, gossip, is passive aggressive or verbally combative, quick to judge, or who is really looking for a human savior instead of a Godly One.
Trusting In God’s Timing
God’s brought me to a place where I’ve humbly admitted to myself that I did not trust in His timing. Instead, I took my waiting as a lack of action on His part and did what I needed to do to make my dream of a “happily ever after” come true. I don’t know where to meet these “good, single” Christian men (if I knew I’d be married by now) but I know they’re real. Somewhere out there, they exist and until God allows our paths to cross, pray and work on becoming the kind of woman (or man) who displays these characteristics. Enjoy the season that you’re in now because this is where God has appointed you. Don’t give up hope! Don’t lose faith! Waiting for your unicorn will only make you appreciate him all the more when God finally reveals him.
Sharing is caring– Have you found waiting for a spouse to be like waiting for a fairytale to come true? (Comment below…I promise to respond to them all!)