About 10 years ago, I made a life-changing walk down the aisle. A sermon was preached, an altar call sounded, I raised my hand and said, “I do”. I stepped toward God, one foot in front of the other that day in May and finally realized He had been drawing me closer day by day for twenty-something years.
A few years ago, I ended my first relationship as a Christian…only it wasn’t a Christian relationship. My heart and spirit did a crazy tug of war and I knew there could only be one winner. Thankfully, mercifully, it was my spirit that won.
Most of my life, I’ve been single. I thought one day, I’d meet “the One” and we’d live happily ever after. We’d have the white picket fence, the 2.5 perfect children, and the shaggy dog to prove that dreams really do come true.
Single Once Again
Ending that relationship was extremely difficult. Not only because it didn’t glorify God but honestly, I was more afraid of being single again. My desperate need to love someone blinded me to the flashing neon warning signs. Desperation makes people do unreasonable things and I was pretty desperate for someone to love.
Surrendering my white-knuckle mentality of singleness helped me learn some lessons along the way:
1. You aren’t single.
You may be saying, “Tell that to my diamond-less ring finger”, but it’s true. Sure, there are times when you get lonely. Your single status becomes a blaring reminder when you see friends start a courtship. The truth is,
You are already betrothed.
A biblical betrothal is a covenant agreement – a promise of marriage yet to be completed (often times through a signed contract) to become husband and wife. Mary’s pregnancy would have been just as scandalous as having an affair. That’s why Joseph stated he would divorce her secretly and send her away. He had been busy building a home for them to go to after their marriage fulfilling what the Torah directed in Genesis 2:24,
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
In John 14:3, Jesus told his disciples (including us His future disciples) He was going to Heaven to prepare a place for them. We continue to wait for our Bridegroom to come back and complete our heavenly marriage. I can’t wait to attend the biggest reception know to human history – the Wedding Feast of the Lamb.
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Bonus: God’s Promises To Singles