What dream do you hold closest to your heart?
For many single women, it’s the dream of getting married. We pray God will send us a man after His heart, we strive to remain pure in our celibacy, and stay rooted while we wait. Yet we wonder if God will ever send us the desire of our heart.
A Man Named Abraham
While I love writing about Sarah, I want to take a look at her husband. God spoke to Abraham in a vision, showing him the multitude of stars in the clear night sky. Abraham’s descendants would be as many as the stars but his lineage would begin with a promised son. Abraham’s body was already old so how could it be? Nothing, said God, was impossible for Him.
At the right time, Isaac was born. The apple of his father’s eye and he was blessed.
Now it came to pass after these things that God tested Abraham, and said to him, “Abraham!” And he said, “Here I am.” Then He said, “Now take your son, your only son Isaac, whom you love, and go to the land of Moriah, and offer him there as a burnt offering on one of the mountains on which I shall tell you.”
In Genesis 22, God tells Abraham to take his son and sacrifice him. Did he hear God right? Sacrifice my promised son? The one who would be the foundation of the many to come?
Abraham took Isaac, a donkey, and some firewood to the area of Moriah in obedience. Isn’t it amazing how Abraham doesn’t try to reason with God or refuse His command? He goes believing that God has a plan.
Our Heart’s Desires
There’s a Scripture verse in the Bible that many singles use found in Psalm 37:4,
Delight yourself also in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Are you happy you know the Lord?
Do you delight in your relationship with Him?
The desires of our hearts are not separate from who God is. It’s true that God has given us a yearning for marriage but He’s also given us the strength for singleness. I’ve heard women say that they’ve prayed for God to take the desire for marriage away and are only frustrated when He doesn’t. Will their hope be constantly deferred or will God make a way when there seems to be no way?
Psalm 37:4 is usually taken out of context. Read what the surrounding verses have to say,
Trust in the Lord and do good; Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness. Delight yourself also in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord, Trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.
A Verse Break Down
Let’s break down some of these key words:
Trust – It’s used twice within these verses and connects to delighting in the Lord. Are you confident, bold, and secure in God? Do you believe He always wants to do you good and not harm? That He has a hope and future for your life?
Dwell – It means to abide, settle down, reside. God has you planted where you are for a reason. It’s reminiscent of Psalm 23 of God leading us to green pastures and still waters. Where God has us are places of abundance and not lack. Even if we go through struggle and hardship, God is faithful to us. When we abide, we are connected to the true vine and the Vine Dresser.
Delight – We can’t delight in God unless we trust Him. If doubt and fear constantly plague us, we’re telling God that we aren’t confident in who He is and what He can do.
Commit – Lately on K-Love, they’ve been playing sound bites about the word “whole hearted”, which is also another way of saying fully committed. If you could talk to your newly-saved self, what would you say about your life? Your singleness? When we made the commitment to God, we surrendered our own desires to fulfill whatever He wills. God will always accomplish His plans. We, as followers of Christ, get to share in that and be co-laborers with Him. There is no greater honor we can have, beloved.
Would You Lay Down Your Desire For Marriage?
Isaac could have easily become an idol to Abraham and Sarah. A husband, or even the thought of one, can become an idol in our own hearts. We can exalt him to a higher place than God because we’ve fantasized about the kind of man he would be. Some of us believe that our worth would be better defined and we’d be highly esteemed if we were married rather than the lonely single. There is no one other than God who deserves to be worshipped.
What if God asked you to lay down your desire for marriage…would you do it?
This could mean focusing on the people God has put you in the middle in whether it’s in your neighborhood, your school, or your job. It could mean going on a mission trip to help the poor. Perhaps God is calling you to mentor other women or children.
While laying down the desires of our hearts may seem confusing at first, we can know that there is a greater plan. When we see that trusting, dwelling, delighting, and committing to God strengths our relationship with Him, we can lay down any other desires. We can believe that even if we need to sacrifice those desires on the altar, God can resurrect them whenever He wants because He is able.